Consent & Attunement Culture
Ecstatic Community Immersion
July 18–20, 2025
Everyone who attends this retreat must agree to these principles.
Our Culture of Consent and Attunement
Many of the activities in this retreat offer the possibility for physical touch and/or emotional intimacy. To hold a strong container of physical and emotional safety, we place the highest value on consent and attunement. We ask everyone to be sensitive of others' personal boundaries, considering the wide range of comfort to being approached and/or touched. We have a community agreement only to give attention or contact to whom enthusiastically welcomes it.
Some people who come to ecstatic community events are working through trauma, and only want attention from people they've learned to feel very safe around. Therefore, following someone around--on or off the dancefloor--who has not shown any interest in engaging with you constitutes unwanted attention. The same with staring at anyone. It feels predatory, no matter how innocent the intention. The responsibility for keeping things comfortable and safe is on the person offering/requesting/giving attention, not the person receiving the request or attention. If in doubt, keep your attention and energy contained to yourself.
You may see people dancing in intimate contact dances, and you may want to explore that here too. Please understand that those relationships are built on trust that has developed over the course of experience. When you approach people for contact, do it very conscientiously and gently—and pay careful attention to body language. If someone dances away from you once or twice, it means they are not interested, and you should not give them attention for the rest of that session.
It's also important to know that consent for one type of contact does not imply consent for another. For example, someone may share a fun, dynamic contact dance with you, but that does not mean they are comfortable with you embracing them, lifting them, or grabbing them in any way. It's best to verbally state a request before taking any contact to a new level of connection.
Finally, it’s important to note that while some of our sessions involve sensual touch, this is not a sex retreat. Please do not attend this retreat if you have an intention to find a hookup, because your energy will feel predatory and unsafe.
If you or any of your friends feel you are receiving any nonconsensual touch, unwanted attention, or inappropriate requests to connect, we encourage you to seek out PJ (Bonbon Spirit) or AveryDeane. We will make sure it gets addressed right then and there.
Some people who come to ecstatic community events are working through trauma, and only want attention from people they've learned to feel very safe around. Therefore, following someone around--on or off the dancefloor--who has not shown any interest in engaging with you constitutes unwanted attention. The same with staring at anyone. It feels predatory, no matter how innocent the intention. The responsibility for keeping things comfortable and safe is on the person offering/requesting/giving attention, not the person receiving the request or attention. If in doubt, keep your attention and energy contained to yourself.
You may see people dancing in intimate contact dances, and you may want to explore that here too. Please understand that those relationships are built on trust that has developed over the course of experience. When you approach people for contact, do it very conscientiously and gently—and pay careful attention to body language. If someone dances away from you once or twice, it means they are not interested, and you should not give them attention for the rest of that session.
It's also important to know that consent for one type of contact does not imply consent for another. For example, someone may share a fun, dynamic contact dance with you, but that does not mean they are comfortable with you embracing them, lifting them, or grabbing them in any way. It's best to verbally state a request before taking any contact to a new level of connection.
Finally, it’s important to note that while some of our sessions involve sensual touch, this is not a sex retreat. Please do not attend this retreat if you have an intention to find a hookup, because your energy will feel predatory and unsafe.
If you or any of your friends feel you are receiving any nonconsensual touch, unwanted attention, or inappropriate requests to connect, we encourage you to seek out PJ (Bonbon Spirit) or AveryDeane. We will make sure it gets addressed right then and there.
